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Are You Ready to Tell the Truth?
The practice of telling the truth is one that deepens throughout our lifespan. And yet, along the relational trauma recovery road, it’s very common for recovering people-pleasers and perfectionists to wonder, “How do I tell the truth?” Sometimes, there’s visible...
How to Cope with the Social Anxiety of Having to Return to In-Person Routines
As more people are getting vaccinated, many states and businesses are looking to return to in-person routines by summer. For most, this signifies two complex realities – (1) there’s finally the sight of a light at the end of the tunnel...
The Transition We’ve All Been Waiting For
It’s the last day of 2020, and perhaps you haven’t allowed yourself to fully recognize how much good your body has done this year. You survival this year has truly been enough. You showed up for yourself the best you knew how, even when access to usual sources of...
Self-Care and Restorative Practices for Election Day
Today is a day unlike any other for 2020. This remaining week will likely feel like a year unto itself. Yet, today is Election Day, and the uncertainties, anxieties, and stress of an unknown outcome that will greatly effect and shape how we move forward can generate a...
Unmasking Impostor Syndrome Costumes
There are countless of studies that have shown that many high-achieving women of color not only face systemic challenges, but also internal challenges from ongoing efforts to prove worth of acceptance, respect, and acknowledge. Underneath impostor syndrome, there is...
America, Why Are You So Entitled?
It would be hard to have witnessed the presidential debate last night and not need recovery time. Even, if how ludicrous it seemed gave us a bit of entertainment. It would be hard to endure what we experienced last week and countless times before it (an unjust...
The Highs and Lows of a Wellness Check-In
This week has been full of highs and lows for many. We’ve witnessed ongoing racial injustices that go against our humanity’s highest good [potential]. Simultaneously, we’ve witnessed how courage creates ways for advocacy of social justice and racial equality to be...
What if Perfectionism is Anti-social Toward Our Humanity?
There are many messages that we receive in this world about performance, productivity, and perfectionism. Yet, most of all- perfectionism. From an early age, most individuals are conditioned to function “so well” as to outrun discomfort; discomfort of potential...
Supportive Tips for Black Couples Surviving A Global Pandemic and Racial Injustice
In the midst of a global pandemic that has highlighted the disparities of healthcare access and resources for the Black Community, BlPOC are continuing to bear the ongoing realities of racial injustice in this world. While anxiety, depression, and trauma symptoms...
Healing through Grief, Racial Trauma, and Systemic Misattunement
The month of May, coincidentally mental health awareness month, has given the world a glimpse inside the continuous reality of the existence of Black women and men in this country. It has allowed other groups to fathom racism’s impact on the minds and...
Here’s to Catch, Challenge, and Change
During this pandemic, it’s safe to say that most of us have experienced grief and suffering to some extent. In holding our human grief and suffering, it’s common to wonder how much of it is natural given the emotional impact of current times, and how much...
COVID19: What I Learned From a Trip to the Grocery Store
Earlier today, I went to a local grocery store as I have on many Saturday mornings. Only, this was my first run to the store following increasing cases for the Coronavirus pandemic, now prompting social distancing. To be expected, there was a long entrance line as...
An Invitation Into Core Worth
Years ago while in grad school, a dear friend on Valentine’s Day walked into one of our classes with many bags of goodies that she proceeded to pass out. The sweet gesture was nostalgic for many of us in class that day, as we remembered childhood experiences of...
Who Tells Your Story?
Stories have a way of uniting us, uplifting us, and even breathing life into us. This is especially true as we take time today in observance of MLK Jr. Day, remembering that his dream for our nation has echoed throughout the stories told by those who either knew...
Part Two: Distress Tolerance for the Holidays
In Part One of “Distress Tolerance for the Holidays” blog, details were shared on how each individual can map out their own autonomic nervous system, and the value of doing so. In assuming that you’ve read part one and have done the exercise, you’re likely wondering...
Part One: Distress Tolerance for the Holidays
As we know it, the holidays can bring about complex emotions and sensations for any and every human being out there. This season, one of the ways in which I’ve supported clients has been in aiding them to map out their autonomic nervous system through exploration of...
Let’s Find a New Place to Live: Productivity Isn’t Home
If you’ve ever experienced the satisfaction of solving a difficult problem or finding an answer that felt like it was buried under so many rocks that you were close to giving up when you found it, you’ve likely encountered how gratifying productivity can be....
The Realism and Dreams of Black Women
Recently, I watched the episode of This Is Us, titled “The Little Island Girl,” and I found it to be such a mirror into the lives of black women, into my life as an Afro-Caribbean woman. This episode depicted the black woman’s journey when facing life transitions....
Where Grief and Love Meet: The Valentine’s Day Hangover
There are many suggestions given with good intentions on how to tackle the overwhelm of emotions and expectations faced on Valentine’s Day. Yet, what happens on the days following Valentine’s Day? What initially started as enthusiasm or hope on how to extend love to...
