GET UNSTUCK.

Black Couples Therapist for High Achievers

Relationships can be bright and full of adventure, but it can also feel really challenging in the moments where you feel less connected to your partner. As a black couple therapist, I offer couples therapy in California.
GET UNSTUCK.

Couples Therapy for High Achievers

Relationships can be bright and full of adventure, but it can also feel really challenging in the moments where you feel less connected to your partner.

You can reconnect.

Relationships are like a dance.
Those moments where you or your partner seem less accessible, responsive, or engaging to each other’s evolving self, needs, and wants can create many unexpected responses.

It’s possible that you two find it frustrating that you are able to see progress made in your careers, but it’s often hard to see lasting progress in your relationship.

When feeling panicked by the disruption in connection, a common response is to pull on too strongly or to withdraw.

It’s never really about who left the dirty dishes in the sink, who forgot to contact the sitter, or even who finds themselves doing most of the planning.

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How I Help Couples Get Unstuck

I help you and your partner create the trust and secure connection that all couples long for and deserve.

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CHANGING PATTERNS

By noticing patterns that activate negative cycles that cause you fear, anxiety, frustration, and leaves you feeling dissatisfied.

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THE MYTH OF NEGOTIATION

De-constructing the myth of negotiation which may work in the workplace, but has reverse effects in emotional-bonding relationships.
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RECOGNIZE REACTIVITY & ESCALATION

Recognizing the problematic ways that you and your partner can go after each other when feeling misunderstood or attempting to get needs met. Which further creates misattunement, loneliness, and questions like, “Is this even worth it?”
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Remember the love and respect

Remember the ways in which you and your partner want to feel unconditionally accepted and securely loved without criticism.
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WORK AS A TEAM

Working through distractions, such as feelings of insecurity or obsessive thoughts about the other needing to change, in order to become more attentive to each other’s needs and how to tackle challenges as a team.
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BUILD TRUST

Increasing emotional bonding, trust-building, and vulnerability.
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HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

Awareness on how to set boundaries that are good for you individually and for the health of the team.

LET’S TALK

If you are looking for a black couples therapist, I can help.

If you’re ready to get unstuck and create a secure connection, reach out to begin our work together.
I offer telehealth therapy in California for couples who are ready to reconnect and move forward together.