This week has been full of highs and lows for many. We’ve witnessed ongoing racial injustices that go against our humanity’s highest good [potential]. Simultaneously, we’ve witnessed how courage creates ways for advocacy of social justice and racial equality to be expressed in action. Losses are hard. Wins don’t cover the losses, but they give a bit of light for hope. The latest loss of Chadwick Boseman has increased the Black Communities adjustment to the ever-changing experiences that 2020 has brought the world. The practice of self-compassion is far more than just a cliche. It’s become a type of Holy Grail that we all need, but had not dared to fully accept until 2020. Self-compassion is especially important while grieving multiple losses and the ongoing impact of racial trauma. You can can consider it a crack of light each day. It’s not only necessary for our well-being, but also gives way for post-traumatic growth.

In the midst of all that we’ve witnessed, thus far in 2020, below are some questions that I’ve been using daily to check-in with myself as a practice of making time to intentionally hold and release my emotions and thoughts. These are questions that I’ve also shared with clients to prompt their reflections and allow them intentional time to be. I’m sharing them with you all, hoping that we can continue to share restorative resources with one another that facilitates an ongoing healing plan. Take good care of yourself through compassion, as it’s essential to your well-being just any other human need.

Daily Check-in Questions

  • What does it feel like to be living in this world right now?
  • How does your own presence feel like to you today?
  • What have you given yourself and haven’t given yourself that you imagine that you need [or want]?
  • What can you remove from your schedule or remove as an expectation of yourself that would allow some ease?

Carmelle Ellison, LCSW

I help high-achieving adults, especially in the BIPOC community live authentically wholesome lives via telehealth therapy throughout California.


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