“You don’t looked depressed. You get up early. You always look so put together. People who are depressed stay in bed all day, they don’t laugh or joke around. They don’t go out with friends. They don’t have good insight like you do.”
“Why are you so depressed? You have everything you need. What do you have to be depressed about? You just need to think positively and push yourself to get out of bed and have some fun.”
“Anxiety is all in your head. Just tell yourself you have nothing to worry about, and speak up at work, at school, or in meetings. You’ll be fine. It’s just that simple.”
“What do you mean my soul has needs? I’m not religious. You mean, I have deep needs and when they’re not met I can start to feel depressed and anxious? How do I know the difference?”
Reaching out for support can feel hard …
Especially, when you hear many different narratives about what a person with depression and anxiety “should” look like and how they “should” function. If you’re sad enough, then you’re accused of not doing all that you can to “get out of it” and be happy. If you don’t appear sad enough, then you’re often at risk of suffering in silence. You might not know how to ask for help or you experience guilt at the thought of taking help away from someone else who “needs it more”. I get it.
The Truth about Anxiety …
Underneath it, you find a blanket of countless worries and fears that anticipate:
• losing control
• not being able to cope with challenges
• disappointing others.
It can feel really overwhelming to have trouble managing things. Or, anxiety can cause you to feel powerless against negative thoughts, and uncomfortable responses from your body. You either overestimate the likelihood of things going wrong, or underestimate your resiliency.
Then there’s matters of the Soul …
Such as, the moments in life that feel like you’re having an existential crisis and you experience transitions that cause you to question who you are, what has happened to you, and whether or not you want to continue living this way. Moments, where things appear to be going alright, but you get sad or anxious and don’t why. Don’t forget the moments where you find yourself feeling void or unfulfilled. Perhaps, you’ve tried to pour out so much energy into managing your daily life, only to find that you have neglected your deeper intrinsic needs. You might not even know what those needs are, but you feel an emptiness that’s undeniable.
Here’s what support can look like …
I listen closely to your experiences, then I help you understand your psyche and those complex emotions, the behavioral responses, along with the needs of your heart, soul, and body. From there, I help you take action so you can integrate it all. Is it easy work? Nope. Is it worth it? Absolutely! Will I have your best interest in mind throughout this process? Heck yeah! So, if you find yourself curious about anything I’ve said, reach out and I’d love to be of support in any way that I can.